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25 Simple Little Things that You Can Change in Your Life

Do you ever want to just drop everything, run away, and start anew? Changing your life doesn’t require resorting to such drastic measures. There are other ways to redirect yourself without completely displacing your existence. Here are a few simple things that you can do to start building a new you.

  1. 1. Change your perspective

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Make yourself more open to new ideas. When you open your mind, you can change how you see things. There are so many different ways to see things!

  1. 2.  Focus on the good things

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Stop fussing over the things that aren’t going right and be thankful for the things that are. When you train your mind to see the negative, you’ll end up seeing only that. But, if you start learning to look for the good in things, you build a whole dome of positivity around you.

  1. 3. Give some self love

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Don’t forget to take care of yourself. A bit of self-love every now and then is important to self that there are many important and valuable things in life – one of them being yourself.

  1. 4. Listen to yourself

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Your thoughts and opinions matter. Stop asking other people for advice and listen to your gut. It may lead you to great things.

  1. 5. Be the bigger person

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That doesn’t mean that you should go around with a superiority complex. Being the bigger person isn’t about being self-righteous. It’s about seeing yourself as someone stronger than the obstacles and limits that others place before you. Learn to let go of the fears that hold you back.

  1. 6. Envision your goals

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What do you want to achieve? Imagine it, envision it, and create it. You can only move forward if you know which direction to go. Unfortunately, no one will give you a map to success. You have to create it yourself.

  1. 7. Don’t try to control everything

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There are many things way beyond your control. Let go of the need to be in charge of everything and let the tides flow. You can’t change the direction of the current but you can adjust your sails. Focus on the things that you do have control over.

  1. 8. Value yourself

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You are not defined by your success or your failure. And you are definitely not defined by how others see you. You determine your self-worth. 

  1. 9. Be curious

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Free your questioning mind. It is what motivates us to explore, discover, and learn. Exercise your mind by giving it a constant flow of knowledge – new things, new places, new people, new ideas!

  1. 10. Show your teeth

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Smile! Not that shy closed-lip kind of smile. A genuine display of pearly whites is warranted every now and then. If you’re gonna smile, do a big one. 

  1. 11. Take it one step at a time

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You might be stressing over what’s coming up on the horizon. But, remember that the only way for you to actually get there is by placing one foot in front of the other. 

  1. 12. Get off the grid

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Go camping; go on a hike; take yourself away on an island retreat; do anything that will give you a break from your regular routine – somewhere with no WiFi. Disconnecting from the world is a way to reconnect with yourself.

  1. 13. Say your Thank You’s

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Be thankful and show appreciation for the things that you have in your life. Showing gratitude is a way to promote happiness and well-being. When you take time and acknowledge the value of the things around you, you become a happier individual.This allows you to focus on the good things in your life, opening up the door to more positivity. 

  1. 14. Broaden your palate

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One definite way to evoke a change in your life is to try new food. You might find a new favorite dish! There is so much variety in the food market nowadays that you can even challenge yourself to try something new every meal.

  1. 15. Reach out

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Make the effort to connect with friends, and maybe even reconnect with old ones. As social beings, we all thrive through our connections. Building a friendship takes time and effort but it is well worth it. 

  1. 16. Get creative

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Find new hobbies, work on an exciting new project, and don’t be afraid to improvise. When you do something creative, you stimulate parts of the brain that you don’t often use in your day-to-day. Find a stress-releasing new project to do – painting, pottery-making, crocheting. If you’re more of a performer, join a theater group, or work on your own screenplay. 

  1. 17. Try something new

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Don’t knock it ‘til you try it. You might have always labeled yourself as the indoor type who doesn’t enjoy hikes or outdoor adventures. Or you may be the adventurer who’d rather be out in the wild than at home with a book. Allow yourself to break free from your self-imposed labels and try something out of character. When you try something new, you might end up loving it or just confirming that you really don’t like it. Either way, you learn a bit more of yourself on the way.

  1. 18. Hydrate!

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Drink more water! Proper hydration isn’t just important for your physical health, it’s an overall body booster. Most people take in way below the standards for what their body needs. In turn, they feel tired and unproductive throughout the day. Regularly hydrating yourself give your body the energy – it’s not all in the carbs – it needs to power through the day. 

  1. 19. Get up and use your feet

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Walk more. You gain so much from a simple stroll around the block. It can improve your mental, physical, and emotional health. A light exercise, such as walking, stimulates the release of endorphins in your body, making you feel happier and more energized. Those who walk regularly give themselves a chance to get a breath of fresh air and connect with their surroundings.

  1. 20. Say No to Procrastination

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Fight the urge to leave things for later. When you procrastinate, It’s based  on the perception that you have the time to complete a task at a later time or day. You might think that you have the time to do it later so you use your time now to do things that aren’t even on your list of priorities. When you procrastinate, you demotivate yourself. You set yourself up for anxiety and panic. Avoid such scenarios by overcoming procrastination. It is just a matter of prioritizing the things important to you and going through that list with diligence.

  1. 21. Start your mornings slow

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Give yourself a chance to take a deep breathe when you start your day. Have a good breakfast and your morning coffee before everything else. Wake up a bit earlier so you can give yourself some time to meditate and reflect in the morning. Your goal is to start your day with a clear mind.

  1. 22. No more white lies

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It can be so easy to avoid certain confrontations by telling a white lie. It won’t hurt anyone, right? Wrong. Small lies are still lies. Avoid burdening yourself with guilt and the fear of getting caught in your lie by just facing the consequences by telling the truth. It may not be easy but it is the honorable and the right thing to do.

  1. 23. Get an early start to every day

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Successful people make it a habit to start their days early. They give themselves more time to work on themselves and to work on their goals. Making it a habit to wake up earlier also promotes better sleeping habits.

  1. 24. Let it out 

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You have a cocktail of emotions. Everyone has the right to breakdown every once in a while. Letting yourself express all the emotions that you’ve had pent up inside you is an important step to changing your life. Shout it out to the wind, share it with a trusted friend, or write it all down in a letter. Letting go is letting yourself find peace.

  1. 25. Free your mind 

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Give yourself time to pray, meditate, or just relax. Once a week, find some time for yourself. A bit of peace and quiet is good for the mind. When you meditate, you become more mindful. Your stress levels are lessened; you acquaint yourself with your pain; you improve your focus; and you become kinder to yourself.

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Transform Your Life in 10 Minutes! Self-Care Is the Key!

How to Overcome Addiction as a Christian

Self-Care Addiction Recovery

What is self-care, and why is it so important?

Taking care of yourself is important for staying healthy and feeling good. It includes exercising, eating healthy, getting enough sleep, and managing stress. You can also check how you’re feeling mentally and emotionally to make sure you’re doing okay. Doing all these things can help you stay productive, have better relationships with people, and be successful in the long run.

Taking care of yourself is an important part of overcoming addiction. To recover successfully, it’s essential to form healthy routines and habits. Routines and habits should include how many hours you sleep, eating habits of nutritious meals, exercising on a regular basis, incorporating enjoyable activities, making the time to spend with family and friends, attending support meetings, and taking the time to talk to a therapist if needed. Especially in the early days of recovery, you should also be kind to yourself and accept that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s also important to learn how to deal with stress in a healthy way so you don’t turn back to your old habits. Taking care of yourself will help you stay focused on achieving sobriety and can lead to a better life.

Taking Care of Self

Only 10 Minutes A Day

Something that tends to hold people off from starting down a path of self-care is that they don’t feel as though they have enough time to make that kind of a commitment. They assume that it’ll be hours out of their day that they currently need for other tasks, and they don’t want to cut back that much just to feel a bit better. You don’t need to take a ton of time out of your day in order to get a self-care routine going. Just a mere 10 minutes a day will do. Self-care doesn’t have to take up a lot of time.

10 Minutes A Day

As little as 10 minutes a day is enough to help you improve your life significantly. Now, there are a few options you can take in regard to self-care considerations. First, you can spend that 10 minutes a day focusing on one specific thing – primarily either mental health or physical health.

You can alternate days so that you cover both bases and have a full 10 minutes to dedicate to each one. You can spend time each day doing 10 minutes of quick cardio or a quick workout, which can mean the world for someone in terms of improving their physical health. It seems insufficient, but if you really push yourself for those 10 minutes, you can do a lot more than you think. Similarly, those 10 minutes can be spent on improving your mental health.

Take A 10 Minute Walk
Take 10 Minutes to Read and Pray

You can do this by getting in a quick prayer and meditation session or any other equivalent helpful stress relief strategy. It can be done anywhere, and as long as you’re giving yourself around 10 minutes, you’re going to do just fine.

5 Minutes in the Day or 5 Minutes at Night

Another option would be splitting it up each day. You can even do five minutes each, mental health and physical health, if that’s what you’d prefer. If you feel as though it works better for you, then you can do that.

This doesn’t give you as much time, of course, for each part, but you’ll be able to do it more often, which might be what’s best for your situation at that time. There are many experts that say even a small amount of self-care goes a long way.

It’s certainly better than completely neglecting yourself on a routine basis. Find small time-saving strategies like deep breathing, a quick brisk walk, or prayer and meditation. Do this consistently throughout to week to see how your body and mind respond.

A Routine Becomes A Habit

One Step At A Time

Long-term health is a life goal for those in addiction recovery and that can be achieved by dedicating just 10 minutes a day to self-care. Whether improving physical or mental well-being, small efforts each and every day will pay off in the long run. You don’t have to put huge amounts of time into your own wellness; it’s enough to take things one step at a time. Self-care is within reach – put in the effort now, and reap the rewards later!

One Step At A Time

Need A Guide To Help You Start Today?

Check out My Recovery Road’s “Self-Care Weekly Planner

Self-Care Planner/Journal
You Matter

This Planner is a 365-day Undated Calendar which means you can start ANY TIME!Each Month begins with Self-Care Insights to show you how to develop a routine that works for you.

Each Month is also broken down into Weeks.

Each week has: 1. The Planner –To set Goals for Your Mind and Body, write down Daily Affirmations, and track your Water intake. 2. Your Intentions –To write down Intentions for your Physical, Emotional, Spiritual Health

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Advice for Resolving Conflicts in Your Relationships (And if You’re Funny Use Humor)

The conflict has been brewing all day. The combatants are at crisis point, and it feels like the entire office is holding their collective breath waiting to see what happens next. At this point, they’re ready for bloodshed, or at the very least, some very strong words.

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No matter how much you like the other person, at some point, conflict is likely to happen. While most conflicts are fairly small (like trying to decide where to go out for dinner), left untended a conflict can fester and grow. That’s why it’s so important to resolve conflicts in your relationships before they have a chance to take on a life of their own.

How do you go about doing that?

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  1. Start by listening. But don’t just listen to the spoken words, but the feelings behind them. It’s the emotions that drive the conversation after all! By listening actively, meaning pausing to ask questions, clarify, and to reiterate what you think the other person is saying, you tell the other person that what they have to say matters. But more importantly, you’re letting them know that they’re being heard.
  2. Look for resolution over being right. Giving up the notion that you have to ‘win’ is where you start seeing the solutions. Conflict is not a competition.
  3. Stay at the moment. Instead of focusing on what happened that brought you into this conflict, pay attention to what’s going on right now. Now isn’t the time for blame. Rather look for solutions.

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  1. Decide what’s important right now. It is called ‘picking your battles’ and is important in determining whether a thing is worth fighting over. Ask yourself if this is just an issue over a minor annoyance that will be easily forgotten, or if you have something deeper going on that maybe needs to be addressed.
  2. Know how and when to disengage. That means being able to do what it takes to walk away. It might be forgiveness is in order. It might be that you’re just going to need to agree to disagree. Worst case scenario? It might be time just to let the matter go entirely. Whatever the case, there’s nothing to be gained by staying in the conflict.


Using Humor

The last thing anyone expects is for one of the key players in the conflict to open their mouths and… make a joke?

Maybe it doesn’t feel like a resolution to the conflict, but actually, laughter goes far beyond being the clichéd ‘best medicine.’  How? First of all, laughter takes the tension out of the situation, which is exactly what’s needed to regain perspective, build stronger bonds, and yes, sometimes smooth over the differences.

How then do you effectively use humor to resolve conflicts?

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  1. Make sure that both parties are ‘in on the joke.’ By keeping humor wholesome – not at the expense of the other person, you’re focusing on inviting them to laugh with you, rather than laughing at them. How can you tell if you’re doing it right? Humor is tricky, and so your best indicator of getting it right is to gauge the other person’s reactions. If they’re not laughing, chances are they don’t find it funny. Stop!
  1. Check to make sure that you’re using humor as a defensive weapon rather than as a positive tool. If you’re using humor to mask emotions that you’d rather not deal with right now, then it’s time to put a flag on the play. Stop immediately and ask yourself what it is that you’re not dealing with and why.
  1. Work on that sense of humor. Every good comedian knows how to read their audience. The same goes for using humor with another person, especially in a situation that’s already a conflict. Watch the nonverbal cues. What language are you using? Keep the tone positive and light, and mean it. That means don’t use jokes as a means of cruelty. Lastly, consider what you might use as an inside joke. Inside jokes not only keep the situation light but create a deeper intimacy with whom you conflict.

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  1. Most importantly, be Playful! A little bit of silly fun is a good thing. Not sure how to tap into that kind of fun and crazy side? Explore humor in other ways so that you always have a repertoire to fall back on. Watch things you find funny on TV or in movies. Listen to jokes. Read the funnies. Find that side of you that likes to play and encourage it with creativity and fun.


And no matter what, cut yourself some slack. It takes practice to be funny. Keep at it, and you’ll find your natural sense of humor, and be able to tap into it when you need to. That conflict won’t know what hit it!

Resolving conflicts isn’t a hard skill to learn. By following these tips, you will discover how better to deal with conflict in every kind of relationship – whether business or personal. So take heart – a misunderstanding doesn’t have to mean the end of the world. Instead, look at your conflict as a step toward better understanding that will, in turn, lead to better relationships in the long run.



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What are the Causes and Benefits of Conflict?

Your day might have started fairly ordinary. Only somewhere along the way, things blew up. Now you’re in the middle of a massive conflict with no clear idea of how you got there.

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It’s normal to fall into conflict – we’re only human after all. Some conflict is even good for us! But did you know that by understanding how these blow-ups come about, you can learn how to avoid many of these conflicts in the first place?

Conflict comes about because we’ve hit a point of disagreement with another person. While a difference of opinion doesn’t have to turn into conflict, every conflict has at its heart a difference of opinion. These differences manifest in these areas:

  • A difference in values
  • A difference in motivations
  • A difference in what you perceive is true or necessary\
  • A difference in wants
  • A difference in the understanding of various ideas or even ideals.

How do these differences then turn into conflicts?

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  1. The difference has somehow become perceived as a threat. Whenever you feel threatened, there’s going to be trouble. Threats bring out that whole urge to fight to protect what’s important to you. Hence, your disagreement escalates into the realm of conflict.
  2. You’ve let that conflict fester. So, what might have felt like a minor threat at the beginning has become something much bigger in nature because of two factors. First, you neglected the conflict by not dealing with it right away. Second, the passage of time has given the conflict room to grow. So, now it’s blown up into something bigger than it ever was in the first place. How? Keep reading, and you’ll see.

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  3. By now your perception is off-kilter. It might be that what you perceive to be a threat – was never a threat in the first place. How does this happen? Chances are you lost your objectivity in the situation. Especially if you feel threatened. Then add to it #4.
  4. Your emotions got involved. Conflicts tend to attract strong emotions. But the stronger the emotion, the more likely you are to blow things out of proportion. Emotional reactions also make it a lot harder to deal with a conflict in the first place, so chances are if you get emotional, you’ve already let things get out of control.

Are There Benefits of Conflict?

When you experience a violent storm, it’s easy to rail against the weather. The wind and the rain can seem terrifying, especially when coupled with the crash of thunder and the bright crackle of lightning splitting the sky. But ask any farmer, and they’ll tell you that even storms have their benefits. The rain is necessary for their crops. And believe it or not, when lightning strikes the ground, it puts nitrogen into the soil that is essential for things to grow.

Likewise, conflicts have certain benefits that we don’t always see. Keep reading to find several of them you might not have considered before now.

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  1. Conflicts make us aware of new ways to do things. The very fact that there’s a conflict tells you that someone else has a different point of view from your own. By exploring those conflicts, you are likewise invited to explore the idea from a new angle and see a new solution that wouldn’t have occurred before.
  2. Conflicts enable us to verbalize what we want. Think of conflict as a way of being able to genuinely express yourself that doesn’t come up easily at other times. It’s through conflict that we decide what’s important to us, and how to put those feelings into words.
  3. Conflict drives flexibility. When we conflict, we’re hoping for others to see our point of view. But also in dealing with conflict, we’re forced to see the point of view of those around us. That is where we learn how to become flexible, to acknowledge that we’re not always right. The conflict then becomes the teacher of two traits that you can’t live without—that of being open-minded, and of understanding humility.

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  4. Conflict forces us to listen. The only way to resolve conflict is to listen openly to the other person. Through listening, we acquire wisdom and learn to make better decisions.
  5. Conflict drives solutions. When you deal with conflict, you are likewise dealing with a problem that needs a solution. Resolving that conflict means finding those solutions, usually in new and innovative ways. Conflict, thus, forces us to solve our problems in creative ways.

While you might shy away from the idea of conflict, it’s good to remember these benefits. Without conflict, we stagnate. So while the storm outside might rage, remember that all tempests do come to an end. The sun will come out again, and in that light, you’ll be able to see how much you’ve grown and benefitted by that conflict.

You need to maintain your objectivity, keep your emotions in check, and realize that every conflict is an opportunity to grow. Conflicts are normal in life. But it’s the resolution of conflicts that draws us closer together and builds both trust and intimacy.

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